Introducing Counsellor’s Corner: Thoughts and Discussions

Tim ChanTimes News

Warm jacket, check. Somewhat healthy lunch, check. Water bottle, check. I was so anxious about him adapting well, that I took the first two days off from work so I could ensure my child’s smooth transition into John Knox Christian School. I made sure he knew where his new locker was located and watched him as he interacted with new and old friends in the classroom. Like most parents, the physical and social health of my child is a high priority for me.

I would like to think that I am not a “helicopter parent,” hovering over and watching my child’s every move, but if I am to be honest, I am at least over-protective. Think about your own childhood – it was never cool to have your parent(s) stick around longer than necessary at school during drop-off or have them yell “Be careful!” way too many times during play.

Recently, I was reminded to allow for my child to experience more independence. Independence from me wanting to do everything for him. Independence from me trying to make sure he has an issue-free school day. I am coming to realize the truth of the matter; more independence from me will allow him more opportunities to mature, experience a hurt or setback and deal with it in his own way, and ultimately, to grow a thicker skin.

The reward of seeing our children learn a new skill or overcome a struggle will be priceless when we look back one day and realize some of our worries were overblown. it is natural to protect and look out for our children. But I encourage each one of us to consider areas where we can foster their independence during this school year, and empower them, with God’s guidance to be the best version of themselves.

Romans 5:3-4 (NLT)

We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they help us develop endurance. And endurance develops strength of character, and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation.

From a JKCS parent