Counsellor’s Corner

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Several years ago, author Shauna Neiquist wrote a book titled, Present over Perfect. Within the pages she inspired readers to remove themselves from perfectionistic tendencies, and instead actively attend to and engage in life. When we approach life with a belief that everything should look and be perfect, we end up putting a lot of undo pressure on ourselves. Instead of perfection, we should learn the unforced rhythms of grace, and go to God with our every need.

In scripture, Matthew 11:28-29 beautifully draws us to this very point. “Are you weary, carrying a heavy burden? Then come to me. I will refresh your life, for I am your oasis. Simply join your life with mine. Learn my ways and you’ll discover that I’m gentle, humble, easy to please. You will find refreshment and rest in me.”

Simply join your life with mine God says. In reflection of our daily lives, isn’t that what we subconsciously do in bits and pieces with our children and loved ones? We pause, engage in, and join in their lives. We simply are present, and we are a part of what is good. We are in the here and now.

So, in very practical ways, dear parents and caregivers, simply be present and thankful. When we are anxious and the mundane becomes too much, being present actually helps to ground us. Take a breath and name the things that you are thankful for. Very simply, verbally acknowledge what you see and what is good right in front of you.

God has designed and created you to be the caretakers of your children. You are fully equipped with all you need. God is for you. May you find his presence in your present.


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Cynthia Chernoff B.A., MCP, RCC, School Counsellor